A wilting rose, wrinkling skin, greying hair, all of these remind one fact: Impermanence. Has this fact of life ever troubled you? Disturbed you deeply? If yes then you are lucky, because in you a Buddha can be born. Siddhartha (the young Buddha) was deeply perturbed by the scenes of a sick person, an old man and a dead body.

But our mistake is that we do not accept the change. Why do we resist change? It is because we are afraid of losing the beautiful experience of life. The fear of the uncertainty of the new drives us to resist change. On the contrary if permanence were the nature of life, then what if pain, frustration, displeasure, and disappointment & a whole host of unpleasant experiences continue ad infinitum? That would be stuck in hell.

Buddha taught the Pratitya Samutpada Sutra which said,” This is because that is. if this is not, then that is not.

”True happiness is sourced in wisdom that everything changes. As life throws up more and more experiences, your perceptions keep changing. Love, affection, friendship do continue thru life, but they too take on changes life brings on them and evolve with time. As we observe the truth of what Buddha spoke, we come to peace with ourselves. Who have to blame? Some deep-rooted anguish, disappointments and yearnings lose charge over us as this wisdom dawns on us. All of us want absolute power over everything.

How do you think our thirst could be ever quenched? It can be only appeased. Hence, Buddha spoke of freedom as the appeasement of all obsessions. Our obsessions can be appeased when we see what life is at this moment; it is not the next moment. A rose is not a rose if it stays forever.